A Newbie’s Guide To Female-Friendly Porn

Chloe Pedley Nov 30, 2013 0 comments 0

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Porn isn’t all dirty moustaches and gangbangs, you know. In fact, a growing sector of the porn industry is focusing on female-friendly and feminist porn, created by women, for women.

Porn has different connotations, depending on your experiences of it. Some people love it, some people hate it, and some people find it uninspired, but still use it to help them get off on occasion.

Mainstream Versus Female-Friendly

Generally speaking, mainstream porn is geared towards a male audience – probably because most producers expect this is their target customer. The times are a-changing though, and, particularly with porn now being so instantly available online, more and more women are acknowledging their porno proclivities.

This introduces a conflict for some women: particularly those who enjoy watching porn, but feel mainstream porn’s stereotypical focus on male pleasure and dominance – and concerns about the situations in which porn is produced – is at odds with their beliefs about sex and gender equality.

As a result, there are an increasing number of websites, magazines and films dedicated to feminist and female-friendly porn… although, despite its somewhat cheesy categorization, the majority of it isn’t all candle lighting, rose petals, smooth jazz and lots of face-stroking (phew!).

What Exactly Is Feminist Or Female-Friendly Porn?

In a recent Q&A with Cosmo, feminist pornographer and sex educator Tristan Taormino offers a great definition:

Feminist pornographers are committed to gender equality and social justice. Feminist porn is ethically produced porn, which means that performers are paid a fair wage and they are treated with care and respect; their consent, safety, and well-being are critical, and what they bring to the production is valued. Feminist porn explores ideas about desire, beauty, pleasure, and power through alternative representations, aesthetics, and filmmaking styles. Feminist porn seeks to empower the performers who make it and the people who watch it.

5 Reasons To Check Out Female-Friendly Porn

  • You can explore your sexuality through a medium that doesn’t conflict with your ethics
  • You can indulge your fantasies in a safe environment, without having to act on them in real life
  • You’ll see real bodies, real sex, real orgasms rather than the fake tan/breasts/climaxes generally associated with mainstream porn
  • You might learn a thing or two. And unlike most mainstream, bang-and-flip-bang-and-flip porn, the things you learn are likely to actually focus on your pleasure.
  • You may discover a more stimulating and erotic pornography experience, with more interesting characters and plotlines, and less awkward and cheesy transitions such as, ‘hi, I have the pizza you ordered’ to ‘let us fuck’.

Want To Know More?

Check out this list of feminist porn directors, and read this post by formerly porn-opposed writer Libby Rumelt, I Did It for Science: Female-Friendly Porn. She details an experiment in which she explores the ‘female friendly’ category of a well-known porn site, and explores her feelings about the scenes she watched, her body’s response, and how those two things didn’t always align the way she had expected.

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Chloe Pedley
Founder at Polkadotsi
Chloe is the founder of Polkadotsi, mother of four little boys, and wife and lover to a magnificent husband.
She's interested in all things sex and sexuality, and seeks to make a positive difference in the world by education.

Chloe is the founder of Polkadotsi, mother of four little boys, and wife and lover to a magnificent husband. She's interested in all things sex and sexuality, and seeks to make a positive difference in the world by education.