The Vaginal Orgasm Myth. How To Have Better Sex Than A Porn Star.

Jeannine Jan 9, 2014 0 comments 0

If you grew up watching the occasional sex scene on television or in a movie orgasm seems pretty straight forward; you get naked you instantly feel turned on, penis in vagina and a few short minutes later hey presto orgasm!

Lesbian sex in films and media is also fairly inaccurate but at least there is some foreplay. The reality may come as a shock to young people when they do come to getting down and dirty. The male half of the equation may easily climax from the media standard of ‘sex’ but the poor women may be left wondering what is wrong with her.

It Takes Time

Female orgasm takes time, good orgasms take even more time. It generally takes woman longer to get aroused and longer to orgasm than men. There is nothing wrong with you if by the time Bridget Jones is smoking a cigarette your juices have only just started to flow. If you are not turned on its ok to ask your partner to slow down and wait until you are begging for genital stimulation or penetration. Maybe the need for foreplay is Mother Nature’s way of saying, ‘Hey girl, make babies with the attentive, patient and caring man he’ll make a better Daddy’.

Most women cannot climax from vaginal stimulation alone. The number of women you have seen acting an orgasm from penetration alone on film, television and porn is probably the same number of women that can actually orgasm that way in the whole entire world. If you want orgasms the clitoris is the key for the vast majority of women. Even the women who can orgasm from penetration alone usually need clitoral stimulation first or a previous clitoris-focused orgasm.

There Is An Upside

This might be sounding like a lot of work, you may be wishing life was a bit closer to the movies. However, there is something fun that the movies have mostly left out; many women can have multiple orgasms while most men cannot. Men usually need at least half an hour before they can become aroused again whereas many women can be ready to start working on the next climax almost immediately. But unlike sequels in the movies Orgasm 2 is usually as good if not better than the original.

The best way to learn how to orgasm or orgasm a multiple of times is by teaching yourself. Starting out much more gently and slowly than you would see in the average porn clip. Do not underestimate the power of a sizzling fantasy to help you along. Plus there are a wonderful range buzzing helpers available today. Once you have taught yourself you can run classes on your orgasm for your partner as well as giving yourself a helping hand during the deed.

So ladies take your orgasm into your own hands and forget the Angelina Jolie impression and have slower, better and more orgasms instead. We want to know; what was your first orgasm or multiple orgasm like? What moves got you there? Did you feel like something was wrong with you because your orgasms are so different to what is shown in the media?

 

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Jeannine
Jeannine Joy is a lover of the essayette, guerrilla gardener, mother, feminist, frequently distracted from all of that by sex trivia, and contrarian. Perpetually seeing both sides of the argument and is quite likely to change her mind.

Jeannine Joy is a lover of the essayette, guerrilla gardener, mother, feminist, frequently distracted from all of that by sex trivia, and contrarian. Perpetually seeing both sides of the argument and is quite likely to change her mind.