3 Ways To Delve Into Fantasy In The Bedroom

Wendy Strgar Oct 29, 2013 1 comments 0

Do you have a naughty, sexy fantasy?

For many of us, sexual fantasies can be embarrassing, or even shameful to speak about. With a little practice, you can learn to delve into your sexual fantasies and light a fire in your sexual life.

Below are a few easy ways to begin accessing those fantasy story lines and bring  them into your sex life.

1 - Find Out What Turns You On:

It's not always easy to figure out what turns us on, but if you can spend some quiet time reflecting as you go about your day to day life, the things and people and situations that light a fire under you. Speaking of erotica earlier, feel free to check some out yourself. Which situation are most exciting to you? By getting some ideas about what turns you on, you'll get closer to that fantasy space.

2 - Approach With Humor:

Humor and levity are the fertile ground that allows for a safe enough space for fantasies to flourish. Couples that laugh together during sexual intimacy have sex for a longer time, with greater frequency.  It's true and satisfyingly so; laughter is a close relation to the joyous freedom of orgasm.

3 - Try Roleplay: Sexy Couple

Halloween may just be around the corner, but you don't have to just use that costume once a year! Many couples enter the fantasy space through role-play. Role-play is actually a fairly commonly practiced form of sexual foreplay. Giving life to our fantasies in the form of costuming and accessories, even if they never leave the bedroom is a fun and playful way to leap into the abandon that passionate sex demands.

Getting in touch with your fantasy space can be a bit daunting, but the rewards throughout your intimate life are immense. Approach the process with self compassion and curiosity and the willingness to communicate with your partner. This year, I invite you to go out on a limb and instead of spending too much money on a costume you will only wear to one event, get something that could transform your favorite private fantasy into a new make believe adventure at least once a month.

 

 

Wendy Strgar
Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love (www.goodcleanlove.com) is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family. In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy, she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative advice. It has been called "the essential guide for relationships." The book is available on ebook, as well as in paperback online.
Wendy has been married for 29 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 15- 25 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love (www.goodcleanlove.com) is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family. In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy, she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative advice. It has been called "the essential guide for relationships." The book is available on ebook, as well as in paperback online. Wendy has been married for 29 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 15- 25 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.